Love, Life, & Change

I never thought I would start a blog, but now I have a reason to. Let me start off with some background history hee hee.

Back in the day when I attended CSULB and participated in an asian sorority, Alpha Delta Kappa, I went to a lot of house parties and met a lot of people. Well this one particular weekend I went to an Alpha Chi house party some where in West LA. That night I met Jun. I really didn't think anything of our encounter since I had a boyfriend at the time but I guess I left an impression on him. Since that encounter we frequently ran into each other on campus. I would always take a few minutes to chat with him in between class. As the semesters went on our short "chit-chat" rituals continued, we virtually became good friends but oddly we never hung out for lunch or anything. Probably because I had a boyfriend. After I graduated we finally hung out once for lunch. I knew he was interested but again I was still unavailable. At the time he was also very shy and quiet. Even though I left CSULB and we never hung out, we both managed to stay in contact. Occasionally he would call or we would email each other. The last phone call that I can remember was when he told me he had just gotten married. This was some time in 2002. Shortly after that I moved to Chicago in April of 2003 to work at the John G. Shedd aquarium, and again got involved in another serious relationship. While I was living in Chicago we ultimately lost touch. He lost my contact info and changed his cell number, and I was too lazy to forward my new contact to everyone I knew. Two years went by without every hearing from one another. During that time he divorced his wife and did some soul searching. I, in the other hand, was adjusting to the big and busy city life and trying to justify my relationship that I knew was ultimately going to end. But of course I was holding on.

In the summer of 2004 my dad called me to tell me an old friend from college called and wanted to get my new contact info. We both couldn't make out the name, but I wrote down the number anyway. I left the (714) number on the floor in my bedroom for six months before I called. I still didn't know who it was. So six months passes (Dec 2004) and I finally manage to gain the courage to call this stranger. I get the voicemail and I don't recognize the voice. So I leave a lame message telling this person "I don't know who this is. Call me back". He calls me back minutes later and it's Jun! I'm so surprised to hear from him. We briefly talk, exchange info, and then hang up. Two months go by and we keep playing phone tag, so we decide to email each other instead. During the emails we catch up, chat, joke around and slowly we both realize we have a lot in common as far as hobbies and interests go, and our views on love, relationships, and marriage are very similar. I'm tempted but I resist. By this time my relationship was coming to an end. My boyfriend of almost three years decides that he wants to move to Japan...alone, but for very good and passionate reasons (March 2005). I respect his decision and at the same token I'm also ready for a change. In March of 2005 I start looking for jobs in the west coast, LB aquarium, Ty aquarium in Santa Barbara, Oahu, and Maui. But my heart was set on Hawaii. Jun insists I come back to Cali but I tell him I have always wanted to live in Hawaii. I ask him if he would ever relocate and he says "no, maybe when I retire". "Retire!!" Hell, that was way too long and I pretty much threw the idea of us ever dating out the window. So in April of 2005 I accept the Head Aquarist position at the Maui Ocean Center and Sammie and I begin to prepare for our move and our break up.




At the end of May 2005, Sammie and I say our final good-bye at the airport. It was one of the hardest good-byes I ever had to say. It was extremely sad for the both of us, but we both knew better things were coming our way. I might have been a little more angry than him but I kept moving forward, trying to stay optimistic about my new future.

Before moving to Maui I went home (LA) for two weeks to visit my family and friends. During that time I shopped for a car, bought last minute things, and prepared my dog, satomi, for her long stay with my mom (quarantine: 120 days). Jun and I were still talking, but not that often. He totally wanted to hang out but I was hesitant cause things weren't quite over between Sammie and I. Plus, I had this feeling I would like him if I saw him and I was anti long distant relationship, so I decided to avoid the temptation all together

I finally move to Maui, sammie moves to Japan in July (it's basically over by this time), I buy a condo, and in August I start dating a guy name Chris. The funny thing was that I wasn't looking and I kinda didn't want to date. But at a time when I needed a friend Chris was there for me, and for that I gained a lot of respect for him. So we kept hanging out and we were having fun.









In October of 2005 Jun decides to visit me for 8 days. I'm totally stoked to see him and we have a great time hanging out, platonically of course. When I first saw him on that first day, my initial reaction was "nah, he's not really my type." I was anti asian guys at the time LOL. But then when we chilled at the house and he was walking around in his boardshorts I begged to differ. I couldn't believe this dude had a hot bod hee hee.
Again I was tempted but resisted. Jun came to Maui hoping for a second chance with me but was a little discouraged considering my dating situation. But he stayed optimistic and decided to wait patiently.

Then finally in Jan of 2006 things came to an end with Chris and I. Because I was anti long distant relationships I was very reluctant to start anything with Jun but I took a chance anyway. And it was totally worth it. In Feb 2006 he came to Maui again. We had a blast and I realized what a great guy he was. On April 21, 2006 he moved to Maui and from then on we have been inseparable!